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Stu
11-17-05, 04:56 PM
Tasha Henderson got tired of her 14-year-old daughter's poor grades, her chronic lateness to class and her talking back to her teachers, so she decided to teach the girl a lesson.

She made Coretha stand at a busy Oklahoma City intersection Nov. 4 with a cardboard sign that read: "I don't do my homework and I act up in school, so my parents are preparing me for my future. Will work for food."

"This may not work. I'm not a professional," said Henderson, a 34- year-old mother of three. "But I felt I owed it to my child to at least try."

In fact, Henderson has seen a turnaround in her daughter's behavior in the past week and a half. But the punishment prompted letters and calls to talk radio from people either praising the woman or blasting her for publicly humiliating her daughter.

"The parents of that girl need more education than she does if they can't see that the worst scenario in this case is to kill their daughter psychologically," Suzanne Ball said in a letter to The Oklahoman.

Marvin Lyle, 52, said in an interview: "I don't see anything wrong with it. I see the other extreme where parents don't care what the kids do, and at least she wants to help her kid."

Coretha has been getting C's and D's as a freshman at Edmond Memorial High in this well-to-do Oklahoma City suburb. Edmond Memorial is considered one of the top high schools in the state in academics.

While Henderson stood next to her daughter at the intersection, a passing motorist called police with a report of psychological abuse, and an Oklahoma City police officer took a report. Mother and daughter were asked to leave after about an hour, and no citation was issued. But the report was forwarded to the state Department of Human Services.

"There wasn't any criminal act involved that the officer could see that would require any criminal investigation," Master Sgt. Charles Phillips said. "DHS may follow up."

DHS spokesman Doug Doe would not comment on whether an investigation was opened, but suggested such a case would probably not be a high priority.

Tasha Henderson said her daughter's attendance has been perfect and her behavior has been better since the incident.

Coretha, a soft-spoken girl, acknowledged the punishment was humiliating but said it got her attention. "I won't talk back," she said quietly, hanging her head.

She already has been forced by her parents to give up basketball and track because of slipping grades, and said she hopes to improve in school so she can play next year.

Donald Wertlieb, a professor of child development at the Eliot-Pearson Department of Child Development at Tufts University, warned that such punishment could do extreme emotional damage. He said rewarding positive behavior is more effective.

"The trick is to catch them being good," he said. "It sounds like this mother has not had a chance to catch her child being good or is so upset over seeing her be bad, that's where the focus is."

Mom makes daughter stand on street corner (http://www.breitbart.com/news/2005/11/16/D8DTOAD8D.html)


That mom rules.

Methanolandbrats
11-17-05, 05:07 PM
Mom makes daughter stand on street corner (http://www.breitbart.com/news/2005/11/16/D8DTOAD8D.html)


That mom rules. When my son acts up I put fireants on his balls.

Tifosi24
11-17-05, 05:10 PM
There is a school on the Northside of Milwaukee that does something similar to that when kids act up. They make them sit out on the sidewalk of a busy street and do homework or something along those lines. The NBC affiliate did a story on it about how terrible it was, but all those involved liked it because it got positive results.

rabbit
11-17-05, 05:25 PM
Kid doesn't sound stupid, just lazy.

Big dif.

Ankf00
11-17-05, 05:34 PM
Coretha has been getting C's and D's as a freshman at Edmond Memorial High in this well-to-do Oklahoma City suburb. Edmond Memorial is considered one of the top high schools in the state in academics.

:rofl:

Well-to-do in oklahoma is owning a double-wide on stilts, that way you've got a better view of the landfill next door.

Oklahoma academics are akin to janitorial school.

B3RACER1a
11-17-05, 06:28 PM
Sounds like it worked really well to me. She understands why she is being punished, and the punishment fit the crime. Kudos to mom on this one for sure, and to the daughter for realizing mom was right. This shows she's not 'damaged' by her out of control mother...lol.

Now, police being called? Give me a break! Parents not allowed to scold thier children anymore or something? Thats just lame. This movement of kids "finding things out for themselves" usually doesnt work. I know if I was allowed to let my grades slip and play more Nintendo, I would have done it.

emjaya
11-17-05, 06:54 PM
Right or wrong,at least the mother cares.

coolhand
11-17-05, 07:41 PM
Good work by this mom.

"phycological abuse"? some people need to STFU, that mother was not physically harning here daughter and was teaching here a leeson. Punishment is suppoesed to be hard on somone till they get the picture.

This country will go down the drain the day that we let kids "dow aht ever they want" because we cannot "phyclogically abuse them".

Andrew Longman
11-17-05, 08:19 PM
Hard for me to judge from 2000 miles away but I feel for mothers that are terrified for their child's future and feel scared and frustrated into desparate action.

But define what "works" mean here. Certainly better attendance and study habits are indicators of change, but not necessarily success. Is the girl doing it because she doesn't want to stand on the corner and get in the national press again? Or is she doing it because she wants to take responsibility for her happiness and enjoys doing the things that will make her productive in life?

How many of us go to work daily and meet our responsibility simply because we are afraid of the alternatives? Or do you do it much more because you like it and like the feeling of self sufficiency and ackomplishment it creates?

Kid like that girl often are cronicly and clinically depressed and need much more that a bat to the head to give them what they need to become happy productive adults. Without it she isn't likely to wind up on a street corner begging for food but she might wind up suicidal or in a dead end job with an abusive boyfriend and too many kids she can't care for.

Or maybe not. Maybe this is just what she needed. As I said, hard to judge from 2000 miles.

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